Make a list with three levels
Sort household work into needed today, possible this week and able to wait. Consider what each job changes in your circumstances rather than how often another family does it. Follow your own team’s instructions for a child’s individual care and health needs. The list is a way to distinguish postponable household work, not a suggestion to reduce necessary care or overlook an individual requirement.
Include the possibility of no extra help
Avoid a plan that depends entirely on one relative always being available. Where possible, ask a backup person in advance; where that is not possible, identify jobs you will drop. An offer needs to be useful to you before you accept it. Balancing work, care and rest is not a test one person must perform perfectly. Review the plan when circumstances change.
Your next little step
Choose one idea that suits your family and try it at your own pace. Every family has different needs.
An example in practice
For example, detailed tidying of a shared room might wait while finding tomorrow’s required documents happens today. Keep the list to two or three concrete jobs, and ask an available helper for one of those rather than for unspecified help.