Turn broad promises into examples
The promise to support each other may suggest different things to different people. Choose headings such as help, visits, rest and household routines. Under each, describe one concrete example of what might feel useful. Listen before deciding who is right. Expressing a preference does not mean another person can always fulfil it; the aim is to make assumptions visible while there is room to discuss them.
Treat an agreement as adjustable
Write down one arrangement you both want to try and choose a time to revisit it. Do not mark an unresolved difference as settled. Pause if the conversation becomes exhausting. These cards need not involve a partner: a relative or another person who has agreed to offer support can also take part. Keep the arrangement realistic for the people actually available.
Your next little step
Choose one idea that suits your family and try it at your own pace. Every family has different needs.
An example in practice
A card headed Rest could ask: If a short free period appears, which household job could wait? Start with one card. You do not need to resolve every topic in the same evening or turn the exercise into another obligation.