List the work together
Include not only hands-on tasks but also remembering supplies, preparing appointments, doing laundry and planning shopping. Give each task an owner. A person can take responsibility for the whole task rather than waiting for instructions at every step.
Review briefly each week
After a week, discuss which tasks took longer than expected. Work hours, rest needs and outside support can change. Fairness does not have to mean an identical number of tasks every day; focus on an arrangement that everyone can sustain.
Your next little step
Choose one idea that suits your family and try it at your own pace. Every family has different needs.
Define the whole task
Shopping can include noticing gaps, making a list, buying items and putting them away. When sharing a task, discuss where it starts and ends. Clear scope can help avoid leaving one person responsible for remembering and prompting every step.
Try a one-week example
Choose two or three tasks and try the arrangement for a week. Review timing and the effort of remembering things as well as the number of jobs. A task can change hands; the first experiment does not need to become a permanent arrangement.